QUOTE(P.P.A. @ Oct 4 2009, 02:04 AM)

You mean greed? I'd consider it the embodiment of selfishness.
I mean acting to bring others happiness so that you can be happy.
QUOTE(Elnendil @ Oct 7 2009, 08:07 PM)

I think you need to step a bit away from such moralistic and righteous tones, PPA. I'm not saying do what you don't want to do, but you're taking it to a point that you hurt yourself or bash yourself to reach a goal that, well, in my opinion is unobtainable. Nobody is perfect, people make mistakes. Instead of wallowing in what you consider a mistake, take a more positive outlook on it. I've noticed over a while you seem almost "robotic" in nature. You need "set goals". You need "black and white". But the fact of the matter is that the world isn't like that. I'm sure you've heard a great tactician isn't one who makes an awesome plan, but the one who is quick enough to fix his or her mistakes when the plan does go wrong. Like when we were playing gmod, there really isn't a set goal given by the game, it's sandbox. The goal giver is you, you do what you desire. Almost nothing is black and white, either. I know people who have done the most cold hearted things I can ever imagine, but at the same time, I know they're good people.
Anyways, I generally use a technique known as reforming to help me understand situations better, in which instead of breaking down or going against it, you take the puzzle pieces and you make it sound more reasonable, based on other variables. For example:
Let's say a friend is late for a meeting. You might immediately think "this person might not care" or something like that, but instead of that think of something more like "Well, I came down that road several minutes ago, and traffic was congested. Also, this person usually runs a minute or two late, so coupled with the traffic, they'll be later than usual." It isn't that they don't give a damn, and you figured it out by putting the pieces together in a way that makes it positive, see? You just need to be aware of your surroundings (If you're wondering, this is why I noticed you having problems because of long past posts etc, I slowly put things together).
Could you be wrong? Sure. But why doubt or think badly of people you're friends with or people you love? Sure, they might be doing something wrong or something, but nothing comes from it and makes things worse. In short, sometimes being "semi-gullible" is the best method. In short, don't be pessimistic, because pessimism makes things worse, even when there's a time you just want to give up everything. You have to stay positive and have faith when that need arises. And yeah, it takes a lot of willpower to do that, but in my opinion it's whats needed.
Also the new Youtube style sucks, I don't even know how to quicklist anymore when I want to catch up on raocow.
This.